January 19, 2017

I started this blog a year ago and, after two entries, decided that my venting was of no particular interest to anyone but me. Consequently, I decided that the time to write could be used more productively. I have found, however, that there were a few folks who took the time to read it and commented that they would like to see it continued. First of all, that is very flattering and, secondly, it doesn’t take much encouragement to get me to talk. (as you all know).

I think I said this before but, just in case I didn’t, here it is again. A very wise man (Thomas Jefferson, I think) once said that “If one proceeds everything he says with “In My Opinion” they can never be wrong. I truly subscribe to that way of thinking. We all have opinions, some more than others, but we all do to different extents.

It used to be that if someone stated something, it was assumed that they had taken the time to research that something and could be taken at their word to be a truthful statement. Today, however, it is seeming more and more to be difficult to take someone at their word. Especially in the area of things like religion, politics, birth control, and the so very popular “he said, she said” Today, it seems to me, folks just say what they want and, if you can’t prove it wrong, they must be correct. Most folks just want you to change your thinking to agree with their stance. The fact that they might be wrong doesn’t seem to enter the equation. Unfortunately, this pattern of behavior is ruining our social media. I know that I used to go onto Facebook to read all the happy stories as well as to keep up with friends’ activities, illnesses, children, etc. Those things are still there if you don’t mind wading through all the political, gun control, healthcare,, taxes, etc. BS. I notice that no one ever precedes their comments with “in my opinion” because, in my opinion, they want everyone to believe as they do and actually get belligerent when you don’t.

Just a couple of months ago, I put out a message on Facebook requesting that anyone who posted anything on my wall to make it of a positive nature. I was tired of all the confrontation messages and, since it is my wall, I felt it was a reasonable request. One, whom I have known for many years, posted something very negative and confrontational with the caveat of : this is who I am, take it or delete me. Regrettably, I did as asked but have felt bad that it had to come to that over “OPINIONS”. Opinions are like pets ; most people have one or more and they are normally different from everyone else’s. I know you love your pet but, just perhaps, I don’t. Should we end a friendship over that?

Unfortunately, everyone has what they believe to be the solution and really get upset if everyone else doesn’t agree with them. It’s kind of like “Road Rage” without the vehicle. It’s sad when one must vent these feeling through a private outlet instead of just a conversation with friends. What have we become. …………………………..W